I think my Groove is returning!

I think my Groove is returning!

Tuesday came and went for me this week, so I am ‘grooving’ on a Wednesday again! This week (Wed to Wed) started with glorious sunshine, I spent the morning outside with TJ gardening and having our mid morning snack on the decking soaking up the rays. Today, I spent the morning having a snowball fight, 5 mins sledging and finally building a snowman! It was very strange to wake up to thick snow when we haven’t really had any this winter, FJ was very pleased as he has wanted to have a snowball fight all winter.

I have been fortunate enough to have 2 nights out this week, the first on Saturday with NJ and another couple, we had a lovely meal and great time was had by all, I was the driver for the night, but it was still a great night with lots of laughter. I then went out on Sunday with a very good friend, we hadn’t managed to meet up in the week for a coffee and with the Easter holidays here we weren’t going to manage to meet up now until after the holidays, we needed a catch up! So we went for a drink, I only had 2 glasses of wine, but I was definitely tiddled, I felt like a teenager again having the giggles, but I had a great time and hope that we manage to have a night out again rather than always just having a coffee with TJ in tow.

So onto Kate’s Questions for the week, if you are new to this then have a look her and see what Groovy Mums is all about: Kate on Thin Ice

1. Body – Do you use or would you consider using complementary therapies?  Is it time you looked into them further?  If anyone has any tips around help for pre-menstrual tension or tired all the time feelings, do let me know too.

Complementary therapies are not something that I have really thought about, I know that reflexology is supposed to be good for stress and depression, but I don;t really know that much about it. When anyone has mentioned or suggested these things I always think about how much they will cost, when money is tight, it feels a bit of a luxury to have ‘complementary therapies’. Will be interesting to see what others have to say.

2. Mind – Have a think about what topic/s you would like to see covered in the next Groovy Mums Twitter Party and let me know via comment, tweet, dm or email to kateonthinice@gmail.com

I will have a think about this one, and let you know.

3. Spirit – Easter is just around the corner.  What does it mean to you?  I am planning a little bit of fun on Easter Sunday but more of that later.

I’m not too sure what Easter means to me any more, when I was younger I was in a Church choir and so Easter meant lots of services and lots of lovely hymns and anthems, not forgetting a couple of Easter eggs. Now however the spiritual side seems to have disappeared and I just think of it as time for us as a family and hopefully enjoy some good weather, of course Easter would not be Easter without some chocolate.

4. Blogging – Check out some of the nominees for the MAD Blog Awards by clicking here http://www.the-mads.com/ and don’t forget it is not too late to nominate your blog or the ones you love.  What I love about the awards shortlists is how they make you discover new blogs and then new blogging pals.  There is a badge in my sidebar if you would like to vote for me.  There is absolutely no pressure though.  I would much prefer to be nominated on merit and not to have to sell my soul.

I’ve not made any nominations yet for the MAD’s, I do plan to, but just need to put some time aside. I have put myself forward too, but think I need to be blogging a little bit longer to actually be known well enough to get on a short list.

5. Charity Connections – This week, if you have not already done so please join the Charity Connections Group over on http://britmums.com and please read this positive post http://kateonthinice.wordpress.com/2012/04/02/are-you-the-one-mum-that-can-make-a-difference/ about how things ARE changing for the better in Africa in so many ways and then consider signing  up to support ONE.  I know some of you have done so already and thank you for that.  It is a great way to help our Groovy Mums sisters in Africa.

I am already a part of the Charity connections on Britmums, I will have a look at ONE and see what it is all about, and make a decision then. I am realising as I am slowly making my recovery that it is okay to not say yes to everything, especially before I know all the facts.

6. Special Days –

Each year on April 7th, the world celebrates World Health Day. On this day around the globe, thousands of events mark the importance of health for productive and happy lives.  That seems to tie in quite nicely with the whole concept of Groovy Mums.To reduce child mortality, improve maternal health and combat HIV/AIDS, malaria and other diseases are among the Millennium Development Goals which all Member States have pledged to meet by the year 2015.

Again I will have a look at this one, and see what it is all about, time is short at the moment due to children running round all day, and creating WWIII!!

7. – Big Question – Do you have the right balance in your life?  Do you know what that would look like?  How could you achieve it?

I don’t think I have yet got the right balance, but am starting to realise that a balance is needed and I am starting to work towards being a wife, mum and me, I hope that soon I will be able to be all 3, and not feel guilty for being ‘me’.

One last thing for this week is the news that we have reserved a couple of kittens that we should have before the end of April, we have talked about getting a kitten for the last year and now feel we are ready to take on the challenge, also my CPN said it could be good for me as its something for me to concentrate on, but also they can be quite soothing when you are stroking them. We planed to get just one, but there were 2 going and after firstly saying we would have just one, we changed our minds and have gone for 2! We just have the dilemma of names now, any suggestions greatly received.

Are you a mum that needs to find their own groove again? Check out Groovy Mums and join us in the journey to fin yourself again.

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Grooving on a Wednesday?

Grooving on a Wednesday?

Kate has taken it upon herself to confuse me this week by having her Groovy Mums post on a Wednesday, she has sighted a ‘Twitter Party’ that apparently trended in the UK at number 2, she has said that there was a lot of discussion going on about mums trying to find their groove. You could take a look at this post where she talks a bit more about it here Twitter Party.

I am of course not being serious, Kate has been great at setting up Grooving Mums and it was brilliant to be involved with the party and see it trending at number 2, in 6 short  months Kate has helped herself, me and several other mums start to think about themselves rather than just being a mum. For me she really made me think that there is more to life than just being a mum and that thinking about yourself can actually help everyone within the household.

So to me; after having a major blip in my recovery recently I am pleased to say that I am finally starting to feel more positive, and with this comes to the ability to see things in a better light. I am sure that it is no coincidence that this has come at the same time as this wonderful weather we have been blessed with, as I am sure that most people are given a mood lift when the weather is so good and there is more chance to get out in the open.

I am trying to take one day at a time, I am aware that last time I started to feel very positive I took far too much on too quickly, thinking that I was much better than I was, I am sure this did in part lead to my recent downfall. I am not going to go headlong into anything, I am not thinking about the future (such as a career) but I am thinking about my garden, I have spent several hours over the last few weeks weeding the very overgrown flowerbeds, and it is very satisfying to step back and see a tidy bed, even if there are no new plants in it. I have plans for the different flower beds I have and I hope that by the end of the summer I will have managed to sort out the garden, as last year it was sadly neglected!

I am also going to try to make time for me to blog, I really enjoy writing and putting down how I am feeling or talking about events that have happened. I also enjoy reading other blogs, but need to give myself time to read them without children wanting me for various things, which means I never get round to commenting.

I think that is two good  ‘groove making’ things for now, taking one day at a time, and I hope I will finally start to see an improvement in my mental health and possibly a sign that I can start to live with and move on from this illness.

Now to Kate’s challenges for the week (if you want to know more about Groovy Mums click here )

1. Body – Are you looking after yourself enough?  I am aware that I am really neglecting taking steps to deal with my pre-menstrual tension.  I am sure lots of mums have stuff that they really should do to care for themselves better.

I wasn’t taking care of myself at all for a while, it was especially food related, I was eating everything and anything that was sweet, and most of the time I wasn’t even hungry! I was eating biscuits, chocolate, Nutella sandwiches and when it came to meal times they were often full of processed type foods and fruit and vegetables were an alien concept. I  realised that things had got very bad when I was peeling a carrot for the kids dinner and also peeled one for myself to eat raw, my body was craving healthy foods, and from then on I have been much better. I have now cut out all the rubbish, I am managing to not eat biscuits unless I really want one, (which I haven’t) and have snacked on fruit instead. I hope that this has contributed to my improved mood, it has as yet not helped with how tired I keep feeling.

2. Mind – What are your current thoughts and feelings about the Groovy Mums blog hop and/or the Twitter party.   Blog about it or leave a comment.  I sense we are moving into a new era with new participants and want to ensure we keep on a track that is still positive for people.

I love the Groovy Mums linky, it helps me keep focused on the journey I should be taking and where I am up to, I know I don’t always link up, but that has been when I have been in a really bad place and words are just not forth coming. I like to have challenges or questions each week as it gives me something to focus on, but I am quite relaxed about what form they take.

The Twitter Party was brilliant (I think I’ve already mentioned that!) and would love to see another one, but I think monthly would be enough as it is time-consuming and its going to take me a few days to read back to catch up with the parts I missed, I also think monthly will keep people looking forward to the next one, rather than something that becomes a chore.

3. Spirit – Do people find the spirit challenges helpful?  They are quite hard to come up with and I am aware that some find them uncomfy particularly if they do not have a faith.  What do you think?

For me this is a take it or leave it question, I think I have left a reply most times I have joined in, but it’s not necessarily something I would miss. I think many people could find it difficult if they are not religious, especially if they are very anti-religion.

4. Blogging – Please do take a look at the Brilliance in Blogging Awards shortlist over on Britmums.  I found it lovely to discover blogs that I did not know about.  We can all learn from and with each other.

I have been pleasantly surprised by how many new blogs I have seen by reading through the short lists for the BiB’s, and that was just with a quick look through some of the categories. I need to go back now and have a proper look. I am sure that there will be some that I will being to follow. Congratulations to everyone who was short listed.

5. Charity Connections – Do think about supporting National Daffodil Month and raising funds for the Marie Curie nurses. http://www.mariecurie.org.uk/en-gb/fundraising-volunteering/great-daffodil-appeal/

I have been very fortunate so far in life that no one close to me has been diagnosed with Cancer, however I have heard so many stories of people struggling with Cancer that I always like to try to support  a charity like this one where I can. I won’t be making ny grad gestures, but will look out for the daffodils on sale and get myself and maybe the children one too.

6. Special Days – How are you sleeping?  It is National Bed Month and you can find out more on good sleep by clicking here http://www.sleepcouncil.org.uk/about/

For me sleep is drug induced, which on the surface sounds good, but in reality it is not. I still wake feeling rubbish, especially if I have a night full of weird dreams. I can take a while to drop of now my body is used to the medication and I also keep waking in the night (something I used to do pre-medication). At the moment I don’t think there is much I can do except try to clean my mind before I go to bed.

7. The Big Question – Why do you set limits for yourself?  Are you setting them too low?  I ask this as over the last 6 months I have realised that when I start to reach out, good things come my way.  That can happen for you too.

Not sure on this one, not sure how to answer. I have found that when I take on too much at the moment I tend to crash and burn, so I think I need to set myself limits to ensure that I can stay healthy mentally. I hope though that as my mental health improves so will I be able to increase any limits I might have set myself.

That’s me this week, I hope you have been inspired to join in, but if you are still unsure then take a look here and see what Groovy Mums is all about.

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The past couple of weeks have been difficult, actually that’s quite tame, its been extremely hard work especially this past week. I really want to blog, but am struggling with finding the words to talk about how I have been and what has happened.

I have to make apologies to Kate On Thin Ice and Pea Green Pantry as I should have linked up to their linky’s this week, but have just not had the mind space to be able to write, and for that I am sorry as they are both great linky’s. I hope that this week things will be easier and I will actually find the right words to type.

Today has been a bit of a mixed bag, TJ has mostly been sleeping on NJ, with a very high temperature and a nasty cough, luckily she has managed to eat and drink, but it’s always a worry when they are poorly. However I have also managed to do some gardening, the sun was shining and I did some weeding and planted some lovely viola’s in some pots. It was great to be outside and to hear the kids voices in the garden. Now though I am tired and feel the need for my bed very soon, even though it’s not even 9.00!

Next week I want things to be better, to be able to put my thoughts and feelings onto the page again, and join up with linky’s. What I won’t do though is put pressure on myself, I know at the moment I need to be ‘kind to myself’ and give myself space to recover from this big blip that I have found myself in.

Trying to find my Groove

Trying to find my Groove

Last week Kate from Kate on Thin Ice took a well deserved break from Groovy Mums, but this week she is back in full force ensuring that us mums are finding our groove. Unfortunately I am not sure if I still qualify to partake in this linky as I really have lost my groove at the moment. However I am going to try my best to see if I have done anything remotely ‘groovying’ these last couple of weeks and see how I manage with the challenges she has set.

These past couple of weeks have been really tough, my mood has been gradually slipping since the second week in January, but these last two weeks have been particularly difficult so trying to find something that has been about finding my ‘groove’ is  not easy. The one thing I can think of is that I went to Toddlers today, and was motivated to do so,  last week I really wasn’t sure if I was going to go or not and then FJ was ill so the decision was taken out of my hands (luckily for me!). I also helped with the tea’s and coffee’s as the person who should have been doing it wasn’t able to come. So a very small thing, but at the moment I am trying to remind myself that baby steps are better than no steps.

1. Body – how can you use your outside space to help your body?  Is it time to sort out the garden, jazz up your yard or look into an allotment?  Being out and about more will almost inevitably help your body.

I love the spring time when I can get out into the garden, and I know that I will be able to use my body this year to sort it out. Last year we did very little outside and we have some bigish plans for this coming year. We want to have a vegetable patch, we won’t grow much but we think the children will love to help out, unfortunately I have heard that the weather is not going to be so good this weekend, so I may have to wait a few more weeks before I get out there.

2. Mind – write a short story or poem and share it with us.  It does not have to be wonderful, it just has to be yours.

I am going to pass on this one, although I would love to write a poem or a story, even if I did manage it I would be too embarrassed to actually post it.

3. Spirit – It is Lent which is traditionally a time to make positive changes.  Can you use Lent to help you move forwards in some way?

I wish I could say yes I will use Lent to make positive changes, but the way my mood is at the moment I am not sure if that will happen. I have just had my medication increased so maybe I will see a positive change with my mood and in due course see a more positive me coming out.

4. Blogging – have you considered asking for nominations for the Britmums Brilliance in Blogging Awards?  Do awards for blogging interest you at all?  There is a badge on the top of my sidebar if you want to see my name in lights.  If you would like a nomination from me, please let me know.

Last year, when I had first started blogging I couldn’t get my head round all the awards and didn’t actually take much notice, my blog was pretty small and I didn’t know enough other bloggers to really think about nominating / voting for people.

This year, however, it is very different. I understand it all a bit more, I have also been reading other people’s blogs more and so I know who I would want to nominate. I am also being brave and putting myself forward (there’s a badge top left if you feel inclined to nominate me!) for the Britmums BIB’s, for which I have selected ‘Change’ but only as you have to select just one (I would be happy with any that people think is appropriate). I will now scurry away and hide for being so bold!

5. Special Days – It is Fairtrade Fortnight.  How much do you know about Fairtrade?  Do you support it?  Find out more http://www.fairtrade.org.uk/

I don’t know a huge amount about Fairtrade, but I do know that the people doing the actual work will get a fair payment for the work that they are doing. I think it helps communities be able to support themselves better and therefore feel better about themselves. I do support this idea and when I had my own business we did have some products that were Fairtrade. On some occasions I will not always buy Fairtrade as there are some times that British Farmers also need support.

6. The Big Question – What are you looking forward to?  Beware if the answer is nothing and then do something about it.

This is a very difficult one for me this week, as I have said I have been really struggling these past few weeks and I am pretty much taking each day as it comes and not looking very much further. However that said, Kate has said we need to so something about not having anything to look forward to so,  I will say that I am looking forward to better weather so that I can get out in my garden and start to make it look pretty with lots of colourful flowers and home-grown vegetables.

7. Daft Challenge of the Week – drop the word “dumplings” into your conversation as many times as you can this week.  Perhaps we can get “groovymumsdumplings” trending on Twitter lol?!

Ok, so not actually tried this yet, but I will see if I can and then report back next week!

8. Your Own Challenge – What has life thrown at you?  How are you dealing with the issue?  What information, tips and contacts might help you?

Well life has definitely thrown a big storm at me, I was leading a fairly ok life, with normal ups and downs and then the pregnancy with TJ and the subsequent traumatic birth has seen me extremely low and even though I have had some ups, I am having a big down again. I am lucky though, in that I have a lot of support and am getting all the help I need. The only help I am not getting and am failing to find is a replacement brain, or a magic wand. I am not sure why these are not being sold, if anyone finds either item please let me know.

That is me this week, I am struggling generally with life, but when I think about spring and all the new flowers popping up and leaves sprouting on trees I feel a little bit happy and a little bit smiley, so maybe there is still hope for me yet.

If you are in that place where you are fed up of just being ‘mummy’ or ‘sister’ or ‘wife’ or just need a place to share your journey to a better place for ‘me’ then why not join in the Groovy Mums with Kate?

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Not Really Grooving!

Not Really Grooving!

Last week I didn’t manage to join up with Grooving Mums, I definitely didn’t feel Groovy at all, or in any way working towards being grooving! I also didn’t seem to find the time to even attempt to join in. However this week I am going to join in, I’m still not really grooving at all, but maybe joining in will help my mind start feeling groovy again.

If you are not sure what Grooving Mums is all about (where have you been?) the take a look here and see what Kate on Thin Ice is trying to help us mums do.

So here are these weeks challenges / questions (not compulsory)

1. Body – do you love or loathe your body?  Celebrate the fact you are a mum by posting here http://cafebebe.co.uk/2012/02/real-mummy-tummies/

I’m not a huge fan of my body, mostly the area I dislike is my stomach (like most mums!), I’ve never had a flat stomach, but have always desired one, even though I know it’s not something we can all have. I was lucky in my pregnancies that I never got stretch marks, but I do feel that after my 3rd pregnancy my stomach is more wobbly. I am unsure though if this is because I had a section and felt unable to do exercise for quite some time, and even now I am not getting going with the exercise lark.

2. Mind – who is setting the standard?  Is it too high or too low?

Not sure about this one and what Kate means by it, but I know that I am setting my own standards for myself too high, I expect myself to be perfect, to have the perfect house, be the perfect friend (that everyone wants to be friends with), the perfect wife, the perfect mummy, basically I want to be the best at everything and I don’t come anywhere near my own standards and this is something that I know I need to work on.

3. Spirit – take time out today to reflect on lost loved ones and to remember those for whom Valentine’s Day will be particularly sad this year.

I am very fortunate at the moment that I have not lost many relatives yet, and as yet I have not lost any friends. However I know as my parents and in-laws get older this is something that will come at some point and actually worry more how my children will cope with the loss more than my own loss. I know a few people who will have been alone this Valentines day, but not well enough to know if they are happy or not. I would like to hope that if it was going t be a difficult day for them that close friends would have rallied round and given support.

4. Blogging – write a love letter and post it.

This is a hard one, I will have a think and see if I can manage to write something.

5. Special Days – It is Valentine’s Day.  Show yourself some love this week.  Buy yourself some flowers or do for yourself what you can imagine the world’s best partner doing for you.  Why not?  Go on, do it and see how it feels.

How I would love to do something for myself, in fact I did have a day to myself yesterday (Tuesday) but I actually did not do what I had planned. My plan was to go to the local town, have a look round the nice little shops, check out the charity shops and even have a coffee whilst I was out. All I managed was a trip to the bank, a quick walk round and then straight back home. I felt unable to go into the shops, I didn’t want to have any interaction with anyone, or feel obliged to buy anything. I did manage to watch ‘Dirty Dancing’ though in the afternoon (whilst blogging!) and that was nice.

6. The Big Question – Do you love yourself?  If yes, tell us how and why.  If not, why not?

My mood is low so at the moment nothing would feel good and loving myself is not something I can do. I am hoping that once I have had a review of my medication I can begin the journey to learn how to love myself as it’s not something I have ever been able to do. I am not entirely sure why I have never loved myself, maybe I am just a negative person, or maybe I have never learnt how to be happy with myself. This is something that I hope my children will learn, that they are special and beautiful and no matter what they do they will always be loved and should always love themselves.

So that is me for this week, I have not done anything recently that is helping me move forward with my Groovyness, my CPN has also recommended that I don’t try to take anything on at the moment or agree to anything. Just because my mood is so low and I am struggling to carry out the basics at the moment and there is no point in making myself feel worse by failing to do something I had originally agreed to.

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Trying to Groove Again

Trying to Groove Again

I’m late taking part this week with Grooving Mums, hopefully I won’t get a black mark for it!

I’ve definitely lost my groove at the moment, it got up and walked off a couple of weeks ago and hasn’t been seen since. So if anyone does see it on their travels please send it my way!

The only thing that I have managed to achieve is to work with NJ to get the last of the stock from The Toy Forest live on the internet today (Sunday) so we can try to make some sales, but also to actually be finally rid of the stock in the house, and the reminders of my failure to have a successful business of my own. The products are all lovely so it is something that I am quite sad to be letting go, but I know that for my mental health it is the right thing to do. If you want to have a look at the products this is the link The Toy Forest

So whilst I am desperately seeking my ‘groove’ I will take a look at Kate’s challenges and see if anything will help or point me in the right direction.

1. Body – Sign up to do a Sports Relief Mile.  Check out http://www.sportrelief.com/the-mile    There are challenges of varying types for different levels of fitness so do take a look whether you are a rampant runner or a slouch potato.

Unfortunately I won’t be partaking in this, I think it’s a great thing to participate in but this year I am putting all my efforts and pleading for money from unsuspecting relatives towards The Joanne Bingley Memorial Foundation.

2. Mind – Do you have a favourite artist?  Would you like to know more about art?  How can you incorporate more art in your life?  Blog about it and tell us more.

I don’t have a favourite artist, it’s not something I am that bothered about. I do like looking at art, but I am more into prints and photos than actual paintings.

3. Spirit – Have you ever meditated or found other ways to calm the soul?  Is this something you might like to investigate further?  Tell us about it and then we can all learn new methods that might work for us.

I’ve never  meditated, but over the last 12 weeks I have been on a skills course with the psychological services that incorporates Mindfulness, which is not meditation but it’s about focusing the mind on the here and now. Its is based on the Buddhist way of thinking and meditating. The theory is really good, but unfortunately I’ve not managed to put it into practice yet. I am hoping that if I keep reading through my notes then I will eventually be able to put it into practice in everyday life.

4. Blogging – You are a woman and you will have women in your world, alive or dead, who matter to you.  Why not write 90 words (or more or less) about her and link up to this charity blog hop for Breakthrough Breast Cancer? Cllick here to take part or to read stories of some rather wonderful women http://kateonthinice.wordpress.com/2012/01/26/i-am-looking-for-90-bloggers-to-support-breakthrough-breast-cancer/

I think this is a great blog hop and have already joined in here

5. Special Days – It is National Storytelling Week and you can find out more here http://sfs.org.uk/nswevents2012  Why not ring the changes and write up a short story on your blog?

I would love to write a story, I think it is something that I will think about and maybe take up the challenge at a later date as my brain is not fully functioning at the moment.

6. The Big Question – Who are you?  Take this as you will.  Blog about who you are or perhaps write an “About Me” page for your blog.  Is it easy or challenging to say who you are?  What can you learn from that?

I think Kate’s given us a hard one this week, I’m not too good writing about myself, but again I will try to take up the challenge this week and see what I can come up with.

So that’s me this week, I’m hoping that my groove comes back soon and then I can start moving forward again. I’ll have a look at some other posts and see if they can inspire me with some groovyness.

Getting Grooving?

Getting Grooving?

Once again it’s that time of week when I look at Getting My Groove Back, although I have realised that over the last few weeks I have said very little in how I am trying to get my groove back and just answered Kate’s questions / challenges. This week then I will start with what I have been doing to try to find my Groove.

Its been quite tough this week emotionally, ending with feeling really down yesterday when I wrote the post Dark Pit but today has not been quite as bad, although I do feel tired and drained. I think it helped that I spoke to one of the psychologist facilitating on my Skills Course and I also wrote the post, sharing your feelings really does seem to help relieve you of some of the darkness. Anyway onto how I have been getting into the groove (well at least trying to anyway!)

1. I’ve been to a fundraising meeting with The Joanne Bingley Memorial Foundation, there were 6 of us there (just the right amount for now) and we put together ideas for the coming year of ways to raise awareness and raise vital funds at the same time. It was great to be doing something new and I am hoping that this will get my enthusiasm back at some point.

2. I am still going strong with the local Toddler Group, although I seem to have great ideas about what we should be doing, it soon seems to come round to Wednesday night and I have achieved very little in the way of a welcome letter.

3. NJ has bought me a Kindle with a bright pink case, I am really pleased (although I seem to have not been outwardly excited about it!) and am currently reading my first novel on it, this is a time for me and its a good break from playing silly games on my iPhone.

Kate’s Challenges!

1. Body –  This week, there is a campaign about eating a healthy breakfast for 5 days. http://shakeupyourwakeup.com/challenge   Give it a go and tell us how it goes.

My Breakfast is not that bad, more or less the same and the brain power it takes to have something different, and then the kids want something different I won’t be going there. It will be interesting to see what others manage to do though.

2. Mind – It is Chinese New Year and I have just opened my fortune cookie.  What I want you to think and/or blog about is if you had a guarantee that the fortune in your cookie would come true in the next 12 months, what would you want it to say?  You can do something down to earth, humorous or something obscure and Confuscious like.  It is entirely up to you.

This is actually a hard one,can I have 2? Probably not, but I am going to be naughty and have 2 fortunes as I can’t decide which would be better.

1) I would love my fortune cookie to tell me I am going to get better, that the nonsense in my head was going to go and I would feel strong and confident and also able to start moving forward with my life.

I am sure this is something many people would want, money!

2) I would win the lottery, or come into some money. The as a family things could be more comfortable, we could be rid of the debts we have,  maybe even pay off the mortgage, then we would have a great family holiday like Disney Land! I could go on and on about what I would do with money, but as I don’t wish to bore anyone I won’t!

Having written both of these down, even though money would be great, me being well would benefit everyone too so I will opt for better mental health.

3. Spirit – Sticking  with the Chinese New Year, what animal are you?  If you don’t know, look it up for fun.  Does the description of the animal you are ring true?  Which animal would you like to be and why? You can find all the information you need here http://www.life123.com/holidays/new-years/chinese-zodiac/chinese-zodiac-signs.shtml

I am a Rabbit, and the site says “Rabbits in the Chinese zodiac are considered friendly, artistic, compassionate and thorough. Watch out for laziness, self-indulgence and moodiness in Rabbits as well” I think this about sums me up!

4. Blogging – Have you heard the wonderful and rather exciting news?  What do you mean “Yes, I have as Kate just won’t stop going on about it!”   I am now a member of the Britmums team with a great initiative that will make a real difference too.   Read all about it by clicking here http://kateonthinice.wordpress.com/2012/01/23/have-you-heard-the-news-i-have-a-new-and-exciting-role/

Your blogging challenge this week is to join Britmums if you have not yet done so and then join the Charity Connections – Blogging It Forward group on there.  Don’t just join but get involved in some of the already fascinating discussions taking place on there.  Have your say at http://britmums.com

Brilliant news for Kate, and I was already a member of Britmums, and joined up with the Charity Connections group as soon as I found out. Some interesting comments from people, really making me think about charity work. However I think my main focus will be with The Joanne Bingley Memorial Foundation, but it will be interesting to learn how others blog for charities.

5.  Special Days – As I have already mentioned special days in this post, my challenge to you is to make one day this week really special. How you do that is up to you.  Will it be a day out?  Some one-on-one time with your partner?  You decide.

I don’t think we will manage one whole day, but we are going out on Saturday to a friends for dinner with another couple, we always have a good time, so I will let you know next week how it went.

6. The Big Question – This challenge is the one that is aimed at making you think deeply.  Of course, the big questions come to me in all sorts of ways. This one came whilst watching Dancing On Ice on the telly because I am a very deep philosopher lol.  Take it in whatever way you see fit.  Let it mean what it means to you as an individual.  So the question is, have you lost that loving feeling?  Whether that is for yourself, your partner, your child, your job or whatever.  Reflect on it in a way that is meaningful to you.

My first reaction was that I have lost that loving feeling for myself, but then on further thinking I am not sure I have ever loved myself. I know at the moment I am not too keen on myself, I could and should do so much more! I do still love NJ and the kids, although I think I may need to be more open with NJ about how I feel, actions speak louder than words and all that!


So thats me, for the week, the kitchen challenge has failed, I am back to struggling to keep things tidy, I didn’t even manage a full month! I’m not going to set myself any challenges at the moment as things are tough emotionally at the moment and I don’t want to put pressure on myself and I will just see what I manage to achieve by next week.